Sunday, October 09, 2005

Men & Their Brains

This post goes out for the guys, not that I get many visitors lol but I hope to get some response. Ladies are welcomed to share their thoughts as well.

There are a few issues related to men that I would like to know more about, but first I need to give an introduction about myself for you to understand why I am discussing such a topic:

As a child growing up into womanhood I didn’t have a lot of male figures around me except my dad and brother who left to study abroad when I was very young, and I didn’t have any close male relatives so my experience with men was very limited. As a teenager I really didn’t go through that phase where I was boy crazy. I had one crush for about 2 years and it ended as soon I went to college in the states. So you can imagine the culture shock I went through being around guys suddenly.

But even then I was always the well behaved girl, knowing my boundaries and sticking to my beliefs and traditions of my culture. I sort of regret not being bad a little, but I think it’s just against my nature to be anything but the good girl.

Now my dilemma starts with a problem I am facing, since I have as mentioned above little experience with the men species it is difficult for me to read them in the sense of what attracts them and what would make them run away. Let me elaborate more.

If a girl such as I, happens to develop an interest in a guy, what can she do or say to make you the guy notice her? And how would she know if you were into her? I know they sound like stupid basic questions, but I do have to say some of you guys send out weird singles. You seem interested, but if the girl started to be interested in return you seem to step back? Is it that you just want the thrill of the hunt/chase or do you just want to fool around?

Another question, how would a girl know if you the guy are interested in her in the in the aspect of you wanting her to be your wife? Do you talk about marriage after a couple of months? Or can you go on for years and never mentioned the M word?
I have a lot of more questions to ask but for now I will stop with these. I hope to get some insightful info about how men think and how their minds operate!


At October 10, 2005 1:05 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

do you really want answers ?

At October 10, 2005 4:44 PM , Blogger Delicately Realistic said...

Speaking as a person who had many male figures in her life. I'm as clueless as you are.
Actually I wouldn't mind knowing the answers to the question you asked.
Yalla guys.

At October 11, 2005 10:16 AM , Blogger illusion said...

Yes I want answers, and please be brutally honest :)

Delicately Realistic:
I am starting to think I will never understand them not even a little!

At October 14, 2005 5:19 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok ,, i think i know who im dealing with and how would you get the perfect "right" signal ,,

look it seems to me that ur a "san3a" girl ,, and you wouldent be interested illa min ppl of the same level ,, i have developed these ideas from your girl next door image ,,

umm ,, being abroad and waiting for the right signal from the right kinda guy "if you know what i mean" might be dangerous "reputation wise" ,, you see guys want a girl who does not really give them eye contact straight in the face or show an in your face love interest they would mistake you for lets say a bad girl ,,

what i suggest ,, or wait wait ,, be4 i suggest ,, is there some1 on your mind ,, ? if so gimme more details about him ,, and honey i`ll tell u all u need

At October 14, 2005 8:12 PM , Blogger illusion said...


I need to first clarify that I am not studying abroad at the moment, I finished my studies a few years back. Secondly no I don't have anyone in mind.
It was just a general question so if I was ever to have someone in mind I'd like to know what to do and what not to do from a guys point of view :)

At October 16, 2005 2:39 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

in short ,,

boys like :

- a stay in home kinda girl.
- obediant ,, dont know if i wrote that correctly.
- but all in all it depends on what kind of guy were dealing with here ,, u know ?

Boys dont like :

- Needy Chicks
- ihYata o meesing around
- wearing lotsa make up ,,

but anyway ,, im ya 3azeztee some1 who will not give you a good analysis illa lama i know who im dealing with ,, couz believe it or not ,, ako guys who like a messy girl "if you know what i mean" and surprisingly they would spend thier lives together ,, marraige included ;P

lakin ya3nee ako guys who want a girl who`s straight, i mean ya3nee zaina oo moa`adaba and the whole package ,, lakin they are so silly couz if that poor sould did a lil mistake they would just leave ,,

some boys are like dogs and some are angels ,, i dont know how to communicate and give the best of my knowledge couz i cant deal with "what if's - how come's"

generally speaking ,, if your good a boy would do anything for you ,, if he`s into you that is.

enough said.

At October 20, 2005 1:24 AM , Blogger illusion said...


Thanks for the feedback, one more question for you though, how do you or guys in general feel about girls who r dalo3een? and i don't mean 7aleema blond dala3 cuz that to me is just plain annoying ! appreciate the feedback :)

At October 20, 2005 4:35 PM , Blogger Sailor said...

if u r intrested in a guy , just give him THE LOOK , and u`ll see him coming to u like a F1 car .. the marriage is a whole different issue , it takes time to know if u want that girl or not , at least a couple of years (for me) , umm i dont know , sometimes less , much much much less . personalities control every single step in ur lifes , once ur inlove , u loose control and start hitting the walls and u want it to last forever .

At October 21, 2005 1:08 AM , Blogger illusion said...


I do think that it takes less than 2 years to know if you want to marry the person you are with. I believe it takes about 6 months.

From what I have seen falling in love is such a beautiful thing but sometimes so painful that its not really worth it

At October 21, 2005 2:07 AM , Blogger *pizzazz* said...

just be yourself..

i think thats the key to any good relationship.. cuz if u act like something u're not, u will have to act it out for the rest of ur life or there will be complications!

i, myself, am clueless..! like u.. don't believe me, just read my blog and u'll understand how lost i am!

hehe don't worry the perfect guy is out there, somewhere!

At October 27, 2005 9:07 PM , Blogger Exceer said...

nice post and nice feedback,, i wouldnt be able to give advices cos i foolishly lost the one i love by acting stupid.. so i was myself but did not follow certain measures that you HAVE to perform when you are attracted to someone.. so be careful

At October 27, 2005 11:59 PM , Blogger illusion said...


What if I never run into my perfect guy! that is a freaky thought :(

What are the certain measures that you HAVE to perform when you are attracked to someone?

At October 29, 2005 5:13 AM , Blogger Judy Abbott said...

what i c and know n beleive in, when guys want a girl for marrige the girl will know.
Because when your man settels his mind to marry you it will show he will be ur man and will try to keep u for him.

if you are intrested in a guy ...if u give him the look it might confuse him if u didnt look i say if you see a guy you like put in ur mind its not important if he got intrested in me or not and just be your self ... be you go talk with the guy or if you dont normaly talk to them then be ur self and he will notice you if you were his type

the most important thing my dear is that guy chooses first.

ok noe if there is this guy u adore n u dnt want a crappy relaton with him, just impress him let him come n tslk to u,, if u want him for marrige , dnt rush just show him u care abt him n he will talk abt it if he's into marrige.

at the end; i might be the wronge person to answer such questins b'coz im single still :)

At October 29, 2005 1:27 PM , Blogger illusion said...

Thanks for your advice. A lot of people say that if the guys is interested he will do all the work, but I've noticed here in Kuwait a lot of the girls do all the work.

If they put someone in their minds, most of the time they get him by playing certain games.

Of course I am against playing all these games but it does amaze me how they usually get who they want :)

As for being single, its not so bad and inshalla all us single girls will find the right guy soon ;)

At November 01, 2005 12:32 PM , Blogger MuSHiBa said...

Hi... u know what's funny, i have the same questions about girls. i don't get girls at all. and I believe that marriege will come later.

u need to know the person fist then u decide. What if ur attracted to the guy then when u know him more he is not ur cup of tea...??? then what. see what i mean?? it is always pleasant at first then after some time, could be 6 months or could be more, then things change. u will start to see some of the true personality of the other person. this not only happen in relationships but also in friendships.

and don't give obvious signals to guys. it is not good for your image. personaly i would think that this girl just wants to have fun and that's what this relation will be, nothing more. just be urself and if the guy is interested he will try to get close to u. however, some guys r good at playing games so u need to be carefull...

At November 03, 2005 1:19 AM , Blogger sweetd said...

hmm intresting..all i got to say is nothing is impossible and you can never be sure that things will turn out the way you want them to...hal dinyaa kilhaa na9eeeb...we r all clue less


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