Monday, April 25, 2005

Its The Nices Ones That Always Suffer

How do you tell a person that you just see them as a friend only and that you are interested in them, and that continuing in this friendship will only makes things worse.

How do you tell a person that is ready to give you the moon, that your heart longs for another who also just sees you as a friend. Such a tangle web people get themselves into, and the nice ones are the ones who suffer the most.

Why I wonder do people always tend to want someone or something they can’t have?


At April 25, 2005 2:38 PM , Blogger Entrepreneur said...

honesty is the best way. Just sit them down, be frank, dont sugar coat it. They will thank you in the end. Otherwise you will just make it a long and drawn out saga, causing both of you unneccessary pain and anguish...

at least thats what i think, seeing as im single again maybe i should just shut up haha

At April 26, 2005 7:36 AM , Blogger illusion said...

And what if the person does not want to accept it? and insists to be friends, even though you know its a bad idea but you just don't have the heart to break their hearts any more than what you have already done?

At April 26, 2005 9:57 AM , Blogger Bull in a Chinashop said...

Pepper any conversations you may have with them with liberal readings from the book - `When Bad Things Happen to Good People.'
God willing, they will catch the hint!

At April 27, 2005 7:39 AM , Blogger illusion said...

Is this book available in any of Kuwait's bookstores?

At April 27, 2005 12:14 PM , Blogger Bull in a Chinashop said...

Hi Illusion,

I cannot vouch for it but I suspect the British Council library in Mansouriyah should carry this title.
Or else Amazon is only a mouse-click away.

At April 27, 2005 7:23 PM , Blogger 1814 said...

I am in the same dilemma. As Mariah said just "shake it off."

At April 29, 2005 11:05 AM , Blogger illusion said...

Easy to say, Hard to do, since the person is so nice its hard to be mean or rude

At April 30, 2005 2:44 PM , Blogger Hopeless Poet said...

Sounds like my life story :P
I have written a post about a similar situation long ago. It is 3 people running on a carousel going round and round but no one of them is reaching the one he or she wants.

At May 01, 2005 2:01 AM , Blogger Rawand said...

You might want to try this strategy:

1-Say ok to friendship (saying no will increase his obsession with you).
2-Be nice.
3-Don't be available (nicely).
4-When you chose to be available, make sure that you spend most of the time talking about the guy you are interested in.

If he have any sense in him, then that should be enough to turn him away.

Good luck. I will be praying for you :)

At May 01, 2005 9:24 AM , Blogger Misguided said...

Dear illusion,

I think you just inspired my next poem.


At May 01, 2005 1:56 PM , Blogger illusion said...

Hopeless Poet:
what happened at the end of your story?

Thanks for your prayers I need as much as I can get, and thanks for the good advise.

I am happy to inspire :)

At May 01, 2005 3:00 PM , Blogger Hopeless Poet said...

There is no more chasing and no more carousel and everyone went on his and her way :D
But I guess there is still some bitterness.


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